What exactly are you manifesting?

There is so much written today about Law of Attraction, or on how to ‘Manifest your dream life’ – that it makes my head spin.

Many of these people are simply sales experts, however it IS possible to learn how to attract more positive influences and outcomes into your life.

It takes time, and it takes a bit of effort… but most of all it takes a greater level of conscious awareness, in addition to, activities to ‘program’ your unconscious mind (meditations, affirmations, self-hypnosis etc.)

The good news is, that as you tread the path of awakening – the very practices you learn will help you to let go of the ideas, habits, and emotions that not only don’t serve you in day to day life, but also serve to lower your mental, physical and spiritual ‘tone’ on a vibrational level.

It’s important to understand this piece of the puzzle, so that when you work with attraction exercises, you don’t have be fearful of unconsciously (or consciously) thinking and behaving in a way that will cause you to lose the very thing you desire!

There are many different thinking styles that can drum up the wrong chemistry, the wrong feelings, and the wrong energies, however one of the main ways that this can happen is through the day to day fear of being our authentic selves.

Fear of being judged, fear of feeling like an impostor, or even… fear of success.

So, I guess what I’m saying is that you need to let go of your fears and your anxieties BEFORE you start working with concepts around ‘Attraction’ and ‘Manifesting’. Or at the very least, be attuned to the narrative and catch hold of it while it’s an active force in your mind – when you can, and as often as you can. We are, in the end, repetitious experts – and we need to use that to our advantage.

So, let’s start with the ‘fear of being judged’.

Keeping it simple, ‘fear of judgment’, or of ‘being judged by others and found wanting’ is one of the key drivers of anxious living (and breathing). Often, this takes the form of a little voice in your head that convinces you that…

‘They won’t understand…’

‘They don’t understand me, they see me as different’

‘They’ll think I’m stupid if I say that’

‘They don’t want to hear what I have to say…’

‘I’m wasting their time’

etc. etc. etc.

This results in an increase of cortisol and adrenaline. Your brain is interpreting (because of what you’re saying to yourself’) that there is something not quite right in your world, and that you need help to deal with it…. So off you go into Flight and Fight Mode!

This is judgement of self, or Self Judgement. It can happen when we’re sitting on the lounge, in a meeting at work (or even in a coffee break), in a lecture room or classroom… Anywhere – Everywhere

And it’s not only bloody uncomfortable, it creates all the wrong vibes! Remembering here, that law of attraction is always in play.

 Yes indeedy, it actually happens… sometimes it’s not all in your head. Sometimes you really are being judged by others! Bullying, harassment, arrogant attitudes, and the spreading on non-truths… the proverbial Witch-Hunt or Village Stoning… sadly, still happens! 🙁

This yucky little voice inside, or the archaic practice of a Witch Hunt… where do they come from? And why you?

Sometimes it’s not so easy to pin down, so here is another idea for you…

Your anxiety may also be manifesting as a consequence of a previous life experience… there’s some Karma to be sorted out here. This is my experience, and I’m thankful to say that I’m not the only one talking about this!

Now, if all of this isn’t difficult enough… The response is often just to complicate it further by judging right back!!

So to recap – I/We/You judge others – judge ourselves, and judge those we believe are judging us! And it’s so prevalent in our society it is almost impossible to escape.

It’s in the media, in social media, in our friend groups, in the study halls and in the workplace… yep… Anywhere and Everywhere!

So, how do we manage anxious thoughts and feelings, and get a handle on this thing called ‘judgment’?

There are many practices that can assist with this, however you can start by developing some awareness around your own language, and your own thoughts.

To what extent do you engage in judgement of others, or just as important… in judgement of yourself?

This is a good start. It’s a key practice to step aside and see ourselves go by. However I work holistically, so we also need to engage the deeper mind through meditations that draw out and enhance those more positive aspects of the self. A wonderful way to do this is through the practice of Loving Kindness Meditation. I love love love this meditation. 

Working with ideas around Judgement/Non-judgment has the potential to make a huge difference to your life. I have to say that this would be one of the top 3 ideas or practices that helped me to simply ‘shrug’ off unhelpful Anxiety (*cause sometimes it is helpful)… like an outdated and over-worn smelly old coat!

Till next time

#anxietyyourspiritualquest #washyourmindandheartofjudgement